One of the best way to find a date, or a lover, or even a husband, is take your search off local hangouts (the bar scene, clubbing, friends of friends) and instead log into a trusted online dating site.
I know, this sounds like new dating app – one of those silly niche apps called Aviary Singles (dating for bird owners who understand that parrots come first in a relationship!).
No, no, nothing like that. I haven’t researched what dating site is the “best”. But let’s consider for a moment, why online dating offers distinct advantages.
1. You stop letting guys find you. You start looking for guys that MATCH you.
2. You stop settling for guys that are sort of what you’re looking for and you jump right to the guy who actually attracts you.
3. You spend more time chatting honestly online so that you can filter the wrong types out and let the right ones into the VIP room.
4. Based on online information, you can actually research a guy before you meet him in person just to make sure he’s sane and honest about who he is.
5. You can find someone that’s compatible with your personality, not just convenient.
6. You can also find someone that’s somewhat local so you don’t have to waste five years of your life getting a man in Australia to move to the U.S. (Or vice versa!)
You get the point. Online dating lets you customize the experience.
That said, some women are surprised at how FEW matches they actually find when they log into a new dating site. Sure guys, do message them…but they’re very often the wrong types of guys. Where are all the hot, successful single guys? Are they not on dating apps anymore?
Of course they are! But remember that the best caliber guys out there sometimes “scan” rather than read all of the available profiles. They go by the headline and by the picture.
So the best way to get a better response from these guys is to create a GREAT headline that “sells” your picture as a high-value, successful and attractive woman.
Let’s consider a few sample headlines and discuss why they work.
1. Looking for a man who’s not intimidated by a female superhero and brainiac.
Great way to filter out insecure men and attract men that want you to be successful, smart and determined.
2. Your mom warned you about a girl like me.
If you want a man who flirts with danger and likes a challenge, this line will be intriguing.
3. I am going to Indonesia later this year.
Interesting factoids work well because they allow the guy to easily start a sensible conversation. No need for pick up lines or even for the dreaded “Hey how are you?”
4. Hiking day, check, dogs, check, new restaurant, check, romance, check!
Instead of talking too much about you, talk about the EXPERIENCES that you enjoy on a day to day basis. Sharing your lifestyle is not only a good filter but also a great way to get him excited about a future date.
5. I don’t just dream, I do. It’s much more fun that way.
If you really want to attract a successful guy, and scare away the insecure ones, then tell men how you don’t just dream but chase the things you want. Confident women are not every man’s taste…but you don’t want every man. You want someone who deserves you, someone who is your ideal match. This is a great introduction for attracting better candidates.
6. I’m not difficult…just find me an old antique book and let’s have a heady conversation.
Get rid of the posers but bring on a sea of intellectuals. Smart guys are always looking for smart women. Sure, sometimes they’ll date a bimbo out of boredom, but what they actually want is a strong emotional and intellectual connection. Catch his eye quickly with this headline.
7. I need to meet an even bigger dork than me!
Talk about what a nerd you are, but own it. Be proud of your smarts, your interests and your expectations for this dating site. Guys admire honesty and a woman who’s opposite of the usual chatter will be a favorite.
8. Looking for my Joseph Gordon Levitt from 500 Days of Summer
Why not deliver some of your expectations of what you actually want in a boyfriend with a movie that your date might have seen?
9. I’m a chef looking to spoil an awesome boyfriend with good weekend dinners.
Bragging about a unique talent makes for a wonderful introduction. It doesn’t have to be cooking. It can be any hobby, achievement, or even a favorite pastime. Make him involved in your life right from the get-go.
10. Ahem…I know all your secrets!
I like this line. It starts the friendship with a tease, a challenge, a little bit of a poke. It lets the guy know you enjoy flirting, you like honesty and communication. And of course we all know men love to share secrets!
11. Tell me how you would change the world and make it better.
Nothing better than an ice breaker and headline in one. Give him an idea for a conversation while also showing him what matters to you – what your passion if life is.
12. I’m looking for my twin flame, soul mate, in that order.
What I like about this headline is that it will immediately appeal to an educated man, someone who’s read about soul mates, twin flames and other metaphysical teachings. You can also use the same principle if you want to attract a religious man, scientific thinker, whatever is important to you.
As you can see, the headline is your priority because this is the initial thought that he is going to remember and associate you with, as the relationship progresses. Keep things positive, attractive and mysterious. Focus on what you want, what he can do to make you happy. Talk about your adventurous life and how you like to unwind. Avoid topics of what you don’t want. Don’t complain. Instead, inspire him to write you.
Once you rewrite your profile in this way, you will get lots of attention from higher-quality singles! For more help, check out the best online dating profile examples for women.
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
I want you to stop what you’re doing and go watch this video presentation that I put together for you at the link below…
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I’ve helped hundreds of thousands of women, all over the world…
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I show you what this 5 word phrase is…
I’ll teach you about why men pull away, how to stop it from happening…
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No matter how painful things have been in your past…
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If you’re struggling with men pulling away from you…
If you’re tired of giving everything to a relationship and only being taken for granted…
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