One of the most difficult challenges in starting new relationships is getting past the “platonic” stage. That means turning what is a nice and appropriate friendship (but where you still think the other one is gorgeous!) into a sensual, intimate and erotic relationship that goes far beyond just an ordinary friendship.
It’s not as easy as it sounds, because coming on too strong (whether male or female) usually kills the mood. Women don’t always like it if men are “dominant”, sexual and cheeky as if they’re dating for sport. Believe it or not, some men also don’t like it when women flirt too openly, since it feels more like a one-night stand rather than a serious relationship.
Then you also have the opposite problem – a friendship that’s so respectful and clean and “polite” that neither of you ever even broach the subject of sex.
Well that’s no fun! Yet, it happens a lot. Guys are afraid of being rejected, or being seen as players. Women are afraid of flirting with a guy directly, because they don’t want to look “slutty” or too easy.
So what’s the answer? When is it polite to talk about sex?
For the best result, avoid joking about sex without context. Context means everything. If you both chat for a while and feel COMFORTABLE in each other’s presence, you can start more intimate dialog. Don’t talk about sex before you have an intelligent and long-lasting conversation that leads into sex, without any massive jump. Work your way towards sexual themes with sensual and romantic anticipation.
Once you reach that point where you’re both thinking about sex but still feeling a little shy to ask for it, or go into detail, you can ask a question that begs more explicit conversation. Asking questions is an innocent thing to do and it lets you both start a dialog honestly and free of shame.
Let’s consider some examples of “dirty” questions to ask a guy that will get him talking and start sexual tension between the two of you.
1. (Speaking of which – try to use a natural segue) What is your ideal body type?
2. What is the perfect kiss?
3. What do you wear to bed anyway?
4. Has anyone ever accidentally seen you naked?
5. What was your first sexual experience like?
6. Have you ever sent dirty pictures of yourself to someone?
7. Who is one celebrity you couldn’t resist if she hit on you?
8. What sexual temptation would be too difficult for you to resist?
9. Let’s see how pure you are…how many porn stars can you recall?
10. Do you believe it’s healthy to have a friends with benefits relationship? How about a one-night stand?
11. Have you ever slept with someone you were forbidden from seeing?
12. What’s your weirdest fetish?
13. What’s the longest you’ve ever lasted in bed?
14. Who was the best sex you’ve ever had so far?
15. What is your favorite position in bed?
16. What is your wildest fantasy you’d like to attempt in real life?
17. What’s a crazy fantasy you probably would never try in real life?
18. Have you ever role-played before?
19. Truth or dare…have you thought about kissing me? Or going farther than that?
20. Have you ever or would you ever have sex with other people watching?
21. Have you ever had sex with someone you were NOT attracted to at all?
22. Have you ever been inside a strip dance? Gotten a lapdance?
23. What superhero best describes your approach to sex?
24. What do you think about open relationships, swingers, poly, bdsm, etc?
25. What part of a woman’s body turns you on the most when she’s in the nude?
26. What’s the sexiest thought you’ve ever had after meeting a total stranger?
27. Do you remember your very first orgasm?
28. Did you ever forget someone’s name after you had sex?
29. Do you ever think of seeing strangers naked?
30. Have you ever talked to a guy friend about your girlfriend’s body?
31. What’s something sexual that turns you off?
32. When you look up porn or erotica what’s the keyword?
33. What would you say if a couple wanted you to have a threesome with them?
34. Have you ever had a crush on your close friend or a family member?
35. Have you or would you ever have anal sex?
36. What do you say when you want to ask a girl for a hookup?
37. What color of underwear do you think I’m wearing?
38. Have you ever fantasized about a teacher before?
39. Have you ever dated (and slept with) multiple people? Did they know about each other?
40. Do you own a sex toy?
41. Would you ever get jealous thinking about me while with someone else?
42. Have you ever woken up next to someone and instantly regretted it?
43. If you could get me to wear anything what would it be?
44. Have you or would you ever try to have sex in a public place?
45. What do you like to do after sex ends?
46. How many ex-girlfriends or flings are still on your phone?
47. Do you play any music during sex?
48. What’s the funniest thing that’s ever happened to you during sex?
49. What’s your favorite thing to say during dirty talk?
50. If your sex life had a movie title what would it be?
As you can see, starting sexual tension is just a matter of talking about it, being confident about your mutual attraction, and taking a chance. It might actually very easy to initiate sex after teasing each other with dirty questions, so use these ideas at your own risk! Don’t use them too early on because they are sexual fireworks and they can accelerate your relationship quickly – for better or worse.
For the best results, wait until he falls for you and then turn him on with some dirty questions he can’t resist!
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
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And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
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