When a man feels obliged to protect you, help you, and please you, you have activated the “hero” in him. Everyone loves a hero, right? And you might say that deep down, every man is a hero deep down. Sometimes you only see his heroism in certain situations, like a dangerous encounter that requires bravery.
In the same way, you might only see a man’s romantic side and “heroic” instincts to protect you and be your hero if you “trigger” something inside of him. Something that makes him want to fight for you and be his very best.
The question is how do you trigger that instinct, and then, is there a right and wrong way to do this?
Trigger The Hero Instinct The Right Way
1. Ask him to help you in ways he can actually help you to make him a REAL hero.
Nothing motivates a man to love you and fall for you as much as fueling his desire to please you – and actually letting him succeed. A better way to let him “win” that doesn’t involve faking or staging an incident? Of course, ask him to help you in ways you know he can succeed – like hobbies or skills that he already enjoys having. Ask him for his expertise and he will never disappoint.
2. Show sincere appreciation for what effort he puts in.
Men are sometimes praised in life (sometimes!) but they are rarely given sincere thanks outside of a business context. Some men feel taken for granted because of this. They don’t want to be worshipped, they just want to feel appreciated for the effort they put forth. Look him in the eye and say thanks the next time he does something nice. He will be amazed!
3. Thank him publicly and caress his ego.
The best way to flatter a man is to publicly thank him… this really boosts both his ego and his hero instinct. You don’t have to be showy or tacky about it. Keep things sincere. But don’t be afraid to thank him in public for something he did for you.
Or, give him credit for a good idea or feed him another compliment. Try to make it seem as if you’re just oblivious to the people around you and that you want to compliment him because it genuinely makes you happy.
4. Show that you’re happier for his hero efforts.
A man can sense if you’re just buttering him up with flattery. The best way to show him you’re sincere with his efforts to please you is to actually look happy, to be ebullient and to project happiness and enthusiasm.
Guess what? He will notice how happy you get after he does what you want him to do. Now he has positive associations. Providing for you makes him feel better and makes you happier. Why would he ever want to stop?
5. Encourage him to follow his heart and instincts and do what he loves.
Finally, remember that behind every tough macho guy is a boy with a dream. He has dreams of doing something he loves and succeeding in life. Always encourage him to follow his heart and do what makes him happy. Support him in his personal ambitions. Let him know that you’re his number one fan and you operate as a team.
Now let’s consider the “wrong approach” and re-emphasize some points about what being a hero really means.
The Wrong Way to Trigger the Hero Instinct
1. Just worship him and he will love you.
That’s not what being a hero is all about. A man doesn’t want to work for you and provide for you just so you’ll worship him or assuage his ego. He wants to feel like he’s part of a team. He wants to know that you’re his equal, but also his ally. That’s why it’s important to align his happiness and your happiness together, and bring both of your life goals into one household, one united effort. You will never have to fake anything, if your life goals are in sync.
2. Be his girl in peril and he will save you.
I know this seems like a romantic scenario, but the more we think about it in real life, the more we realize that the “hero complex” is not anything to build a strong relationship on. While men are sometimes attracted to women “in peril”, it’s not because he respects her, loves her, or even likes her. He may like the idea of being a hero, or of saving a woman from danger because it’s the right thing to do. But is this a true and natural attraction since it’s based on his perception of you as being this weak person who needs someone to save her from a terrible life?
This is going to shape the entire relationship for the future. Can’t we see the danger in that? Relationships that start with a woman in peril (or more to the point a girl in peril, someone who’s not grown up or a confident and mature woman) usually evolve into codependent relationships – one where the partner “needs” too much and it’s no longer an equal partnership.
3. Be his sugar baby and he will always make you happy.
Again, these are not actually equal partner relationships. It might be fun to let a man spoil you in the beginning, but over time, a man may start to resent the idea that he supports you and you don’t “earn” your keep. This whole dynamic is better when you come together as equals, each one carrying your own load, and then unite as a team, both giving your full effort to making this marriage work.
You want him to be a knight, a hero that serves you NOT because you need help, but because you’re his queen, you’re his inspiration. You make him feel good about life and about himself and that’s what matters. For you, because of the great person you are, he will become a hero.
One of the most wonderful things about women is how naturally caring they are.
Look at you. You’re always there for your guy. You look after him. You always make time for him. You’d do anything for him.
You never realize that, in the process…
You’re actually taking something away from him. You’re taking away his purpose.
You see, he wants to be your hero. He doesn’t want you to be his hero.
Men love heroes. Look at how many grown men are still fascinated by Marvel comics and superhero movies.
Every man on Earth, from the time he was a boy, dreamed of growing up to be the kind of hero who would save the world—and get the girl at the same time.
Most men don’t get to indulge their world-saving side in their 9-5 jobs.
Circumstances don’t call for them to rip off their corporate ties and spring into action, revealing their superman side. Maybe they can’t save the world. But they can still get the girl.
Getting the girl is a worthy challenge for an ordinary guy with the heart of a superhero. It takes superhuman confidence. Superhuman charm. Superhuman immunity to pain. Now, all he needs to find is…
A girl who needs a hero. Do You Need a Hero? Let me guess… That’s not you.
You’re strong. You’re independent. You can fix a leaky faucet. You can drive a stick shift. You can take care of yourself. You’re never going to make that Jerry Maguire mistake of looking for a man to complete you.
Instead, you have a lot to offer a man. You’re generous. Kind. Loving. Giving to a fault. All you want is to find a man who’s willing to receive all you have to give.
And that’s why heroes aren’t showing up in your life. That’s why you’ve ended up with so many takers instead. Guys who take everything you have and leave you high and dry. If you want a hero, then you need to advertise for one.
Remember These 3 Simple Ways to Trigger a Man’s Hero Instinct
1. Ask a guy for help.
Ask him for advice on buying a new computer. Ask him to listen to that weird rattling sound that’s started up in your car. Ask him to reach something on the top shelf. Then thank him warmly, with a great big smile of appreciation. No, that doesn’t make you needy. It makes you a woman with space for a man in her life.
2. Take pleasure in male company.
Guys love women who appreciate men for just being men. So what if his apartment is a shrine to sports? So what if he spends hours on his fantasy football team?
So what if his idea of a clean shirt is the one with the fewest wrinkles? He’s a guy. It’s okay. You don’t need him to be more like you, because you’ve got the feminine side of the gender equation covered.
3. Let him earn your respect.
Superheroes love challenges. They don’t want to be given a gold medal just for showing up. They don’t want your love handed to them on a plate.
They want to earn it. There’s one thing they crave even more than a woman’s eternal enduring love: A challenge. So give him opportunities to prove himself. You don’t have to do the work of winning him over. Sit back, relax, and allow him the pleasure of winning your admiration.
The rare woman who can satisfy this emotional need in men has an almost supernatural allure that is impossible to resist.
The great thing about this is that it’s about trying to pretend like you’re someone you’re not… it’s about getting men to fall madly in love with the REAL you…
And satisfy a man’s hidden, emotional need in a way that will captivate his heart so that he’ll go to the ends of the earth to please you.
His Hero Instinct is the hidden need that makes him feel MORE than just attraction
Most women don’t know this… but even if a man is attracted to you or even says he loves you…
…chances are he still feels something is missing.
Because this secret, emotional need hidden within his heart that he craves more than anything… And in most cases, is not being met.
The problem is, if his Hero Instinct is not being met, his attention will inevitably wander until he finds a woman who can give it to him.
Maybe one in a thousand women knows how to do this instinctively, and they usually rise to unbelievable levels of influence and fame.
But most women, or men for that matter, don’t even know it exists.
On the other hand, when you have the secret of the Hero Instinct, you won’t believe the shocking effect you have on the men in your life.
If you’re ready to have your man melt in your hands and go to the ends of the earth to please and love you, learn more about the Hero Instinct by going here…
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
I want you to stop what you’re doing and go watch this video presentation that I put together for you at the link below…
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I’ve helped hundreds of thousands of women, all over the world…
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good stuff. very interesting
Thank you for setting me straight even though I honestly believe that it’s too late for me at this stage. Will hope that going forward, now that I’m fully aware of how to proceed correctly